If you're getting mixed signals from your lover is it over? Or are you her best friend but she doesn't like you "that way?" A woman wants a leader now a days it seems like men have been so sissified by the media and government regulations (you gotta have a license to do just about anything) that we've forgotten our basic programming. Since you've given her the idea that your a teddy bear rather than a Big Bear she wants to cuddle not get serious.
As a Big Bear you take control of the situation, you have to take her by the hand so to speak, say "I really like you and and I want us to go onto the next level" she'll say "lets be friend's I don't like you in "that" way, but I like hanging with you" etc etc.. she is telling you that she has already made up her mind and she doesn't want to be blunt. She is not interested in you as a lover so you have two choices, you can "always be there for her" of you can say "nice to know you, if you ever change your mind give me a call".
The "always be there for her" approach will give her pretty much total control of your life because your hoping against all hope that she is going to wake one morning to realize she has been making a big mistake. Probably will never happen. You will get to hear all about all her new boyfriends and what creeps they turn out to be and how she wishes all men could be like you and a bunch of other tommy rot. She doesn't want men to be like you or she would be with you. She wants someone to lead her who she can look up to, someone who is just a little or a lot out of her control.
Which leads to option number two "see ya wouldn't want to be ya", look unless you like to torture yourself get away and do it now. Don't call, don't for any reason text, don't drive by her house, don't go where she goes. Just assume that she's not the one and start looking. An interesting thing has happened to more than one guy who finally grew a back bone and walked away, she calls and wants to get together or go hang out.
What if she calls after a few days or weeks and wants to go out? Be calm be cool and collected and say "that is a great idea, unfortunately I'm busy for the nest few days can you call back next weekend?" Shine her on and she'll be thinking in the back of her mind that she just might have made a mistake. Because you are now unobtainable you become valuable, desirable, and she begins to see you not as the friend or the some time thing. You were getting mixed signals or the "just friends" treatment because you were not willing to man up and walk away. Amazingly once you show your willingness to drop her like a hot stone you become more manly to her less "friendly"
So show her some leadership say "later" and get on with your life there is a good chance you can get her attention that way.
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